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At the birthday party, Sparkle displayed some of her new social skills.  She asked for a turn during some sharing time, colored along with every one during the craft T-shirt making, and sang during the Birthday Song.

At present opening time, all the little girls wanted to be Right.  Next.  To.  the Birthday Girl.  They crowded around, jostling Sparkle, seated in between the crowd and the Birthday Girl.  One sat in Sparkle's lap, as Sparkle was trying to eat a piece of pizza.  (This tiny little girl did this to everyone at some point in the party.)  Watching Sparkle juggle a girl and a piece of pizza, her eyes rolling was interesting.

After a bit, all of the yelling and elbows and jumping clearly was overwhelming Sparkle.  A tear ran down one cheek.  Just as I was about to intervene, Sparkle asked, "Excuse me, can I go to the bathroom?  I have to go."  She slid off her chair, and around the gaggle of girls who immediately took that space up in wiggles and giggles, and disappeared to the bathroom.  When she came out, Sparkle went downstairs to where the little brother and his friend were playing in relative quiet.

I am impressed by this, actually.  Sparkle was able to find a socially acceptable way to get HERSELF out of an overwhelming situation, without a meltdown, and go to a place to self-regulate.  She was able to rejoin the girls later.

An aside - "party cake" flavor ice cream has ribbons of blue and pink icing in it.  Seriously weird.

She did have an odd comment later, as moms were coming to pick up the kids from the party.  Sparkle told me she'd met a baby with "extra eyes."  There was a little sister, toddler sized, with glasses.  I thought it odd, because Sparkle knows many people with glasses, and the word glasses.  Why the little girl was perceived to have "extra" eyes is odd.  My darling husband theorizes that there may have been a high refraction in the very thick lenses that made a reflection of each eye, making "more" appear.

We stopped off at the library on the way home.  Sparkle said she wanted to get "a case," and headed over to the DVD section.  I asked her what she wanted, and she said, "I want 'James Goes Buzz-Buzz."  I told her if she could find it, she could check it out.  She read the sides of all of the DVDs, without looking at the pictures!  She did indeed find her video.

She waved at the officer stationed at the library, and ran the books and videos through the laser beam checkout.  On the way home, as we approached the light for the hospital, Sparkle reminded me "Don't forget to not go the wrong way."  I looked at her.  "The bridge is out.  We gots to go past my school to get home the other way."

The bridge is in fact out, and the long way home is long, and goes past a canoe livery.  Sparkle wants to go canoeing.  She says she has been a canoe at the Y.  I told her in the Spring, when the water isn't cold.  Sparkle also recognized the pumpkin patch she'd gone to on a school field trip, and wanted to know what would happen to all of the pumpkins left in the field.  Would they go to the Pumpkin King to make pumpkin food?

Date: 2011-11-19 09:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] robin-june.livejournal.com
For The Win!

I'm glad for Sparkle's sake that Coping Strategies have grown.

Date: 2011-11-19 10:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] huskiebear.livejournal.com
That's wonderful! She seems to be improving so much lately - whatever you're doing, keep it up!

Date: 2011-11-20 01:45 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
It's funny. This summer, I was so at the end of my rope, not knowing what to do next because her coping skills with even smaller, quieter groups of kids was so awful. Amazing what a few months will do with the stolid support of school and home.

Date: 2011-11-19 10:19 pm (UTC)
chryssalys: (Happy Ianto Love It by jpren678)
From: [personal profile] chryssalys

Leaps and bounds, hon.

Date: 2011-11-20 01:45 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
I think it actually inches at a time, unnoticed like the tide creeping in until one realizes a big change all at once.

Date: 2011-11-20 01:51 am (UTC)
chryssalys: (Ianto and myfanwy)
From: [personal profile] chryssalys
That works too. :)

Date: 2011-11-19 10:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maiac.livejournal.com
Sparkle is awesome.

Date: 2011-11-20 12:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] johno.livejournal.com
Yeah Sparkle!

Date: 2011-11-20 01:13 am (UTC)
mdlbear: the positively imaginary half of a cubic mandelbrot set (Default)
From: [personal profile] mdlbear
Go Sparkle!

Took me decades to learn when I needed to do something like that.

Date: 2011-11-20 01:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
She has the advantage of people explicitly teaching her from a young age things to do, knowing that things like this are difficult.

You yourself have made huge strides in understanding yourself since you started your therapy groups, no?

Date: 2011-11-20 02:47 am (UTC)
mdlbear: (river)
From: [personal profile] mdlbear
Yes. But I'm getting even more help from my friends.

Date: 2011-11-20 03:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
Sings: "We get by with a little help from our friends."

Date: 2011-11-20 05:57 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] billroper.livejournal.com
Go Sparkle!

Date: 2011-11-20 10:47 am (UTC)
ext_73044: Tinkerbell (Yellow Sub)
From: [identity profile] lisa-marli.livejournal.com
Yeah Sparkle. Her abilities are growing and so is her independence. Everyone is doing great for her.

Date: 2011-11-20 05:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] green-knight.livejournal.com
Go Sparkle! That's fantastic progress!

Date: 2011-11-20 05:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catsittingstill.livejournal.com
Go Sparkle!

She says she has been a canoe at the Y

Is this a typo?

I've got to say I sympathize with a kid who wants to go canoeing. But the weather has to be reasonably warm for it to be safe.

Date: 2011-11-21 12:25 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
This is not a typo. At the Y, part of the swim class is Safety Day, in which fully dressed kids are put in a canoe in the pool, at first with safety gear in shallow water, later in deeper water.

The littles like Sparkle get a ride in a canoe in the pool. She has also gotten tipped out in shallow water, fully dressed, and had to swim to "shore."

This is a far cry from going down the creek, with or without paddles. But is is accurate.

Date: 2011-11-21 12:59 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] catsittingstill.livejournal.com
What I was curious about was that you report she said she had "been" a canoe rather than "been in" a canoe.

Sparkle sometimes expresses things in an unusual way, so I wondered if she actually told you she had become a canoe and then transformed back to a little girl.

However from your response, it looks like she said she had "been in" a canoe--which is unusual in a pool, but not unheard of. And the "having to swim to shore" part strikes me as good training in a safe and well-supervised area; I approve.

Date: 2011-11-21 01:36 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] judifilksign.livejournal.com
Huh. Missed the typo twice.

Date: 2011-11-20 06:52 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-11-20 06:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wyld-dandelyon.livejournal.com
How wonderful!

Date: 2011-11-21 07:04 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sheistheweather
Awesome progress for the kiddo. :)


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