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Bad dream issues
Dec. 9th, 2008 06:25 pmMy darling husband instructs me to keep Sparkle up until 9:30 before giving her her nightly dose of melatonin, which helps her get to sleep, meaning it would be a minimum of 10:00 before she sleeps, and *I* can go to bed, when I am feeling tired and cranky from not enough sleep myself.
He doesn't like her coming in night after night to our room, and thinks it's because she's going to bed too early, and waking up after she's not tired anymore. He seems to be dismissing or ignoring the fact that she comes in saying she's scared, and has since the train incident.
Once she comes in, and tries to snuggle, her wiggles and clutches for comfort and attention wake him completely, and he cannot get back to sleep, so he is cranky and tired, too.
I am cross, because I don't feel he's listening to me, and I'm tired.
I was out on our porch this evening with Sparkle at dusk, listening to owls hoot in our park, calling to them and hearing them echo back (nice!) when we heard a train hoot and whistle over by the tracks, sounding again and again as it came through the park towards our crossing. We could only *just* hear the faint rumble and clang of the passing train, down the street and Sparkle really freaked out, collapsing in a heap on the cold cement, curling up with her hands over her ears and crying "I'm scared, I'm scared, I'm scared!"
*I* think it's clear she's still having train nightmares, and I don't think keeping her up later will make her sleep any sounder. She gets back to sleep after a little bit of cuddling, and being cross at her in the middle of the night is not going to make her calm down, or stop the behavior.
He doesn't like her coming in night after night to our room, and thinks it's because she's going to bed too early, and waking up after she's not tired anymore. He seems to be dismissing or ignoring the fact that she comes in saying she's scared, and has since the train incident.
Once she comes in, and tries to snuggle, her wiggles and clutches for comfort and attention wake him completely, and he cannot get back to sleep, so he is cranky and tired, too.
I am cross, because I don't feel he's listening to me, and I'm tired.
I was out on our porch this evening with Sparkle at dusk, listening to owls hoot in our park, calling to them and hearing them echo back (nice!) when we heard a train hoot and whistle over by the tracks, sounding again and again as it came through the park towards our crossing. We could only *just* hear the faint rumble and clang of the passing train, down the street and Sparkle really freaked out, collapsing in a heap on the cold cement, curling up with her hands over her ears and crying "I'm scared, I'm scared, I'm scared!"
*I* think it's clear she's still having train nightmares, and I don't think keeping her up later will make her sleep any sounder. She gets back to sleep after a little bit of cuddling, and being cross at her in the middle of the night is not going to make her calm down, or stop the behavior.
